Stay Single Until You Meet A Guy Like This

Stay single until you meet a guy who opens every door you walk through.

Stay single until you meet a guy who makes sure you walk on the inside of the sidewalk away from the street.

The guy who holds your hand shamelessly and will kiss you in public.

Stay single until you meet a guy who wants to bring you home to his parents.

Stay single until you meet the guy whose friend’s already know about before you meet them.

Stay single until you meet the guy who will drop whatever to be wherever you need him.

The guy who says, “text me when you’re home safe,” and stays up until he knows you are.

Stay single until you meet the guy you’d proudly introduce to your father.

The one who doesn’t try and change you.

The guy who always texts back no questions asked.

Stay single until you meet a guy who doesn’t have time for games and is brutally honest always.

The one who pulls you close in public and kisses your forehead.

Stay single until you meet the guy pays out of respect for you and doesn’t let you touch your wallet.

Stay single until you meet the guy who keeps his word.

The one who knows when to apologize when he’s wrong.

The one who sends you flowers to your office, just because.

The guys who sends sweet texts in the middle of the meeting he knows you’re stressing over. Stay single until you meet the guy who makes you want to be a better woman.

The one who motivates you to achieve more and be better.

Stay single until you meet a guy who is sure of you and never makes you doubt how he feels.

The one who is certain of you and his career and a future he wants you apart of.

The one who says I love you first just because he wants you to know.

Stay single until you meet the guy who never stops trying to keep you.

Because he knows getting you wasn’t the hard part but constantly giving you a reason to stay is what you deserve. Stay single until you meet the guy who makes you feel more beautiful just standing beside him.

The one who still gives you butterflies when you walk in a room.

Stay single until you meet the guy who makes you not want to be.

The one who changes the standard you once had and suddenly no one can compare.

Stay single until you meet the guy you can’t live without.

Until then. Stay single.

Priest nabbed over death of woman in shrine

Detectives of the Ogun State police command on Sunday arrested one Lekan Olukolu, a priest, over the death of a 25-year-old woman, Idowu Ogunkoya, in his shrine.

According to spokesman of the command, Abimbola Oyeyemi, the priest’s arrest was as a result of a complaint by Lucky Oghenetega who reported at Ago-Iwoye divisional headquarters that the deceased who was his fiancé was taken to the shrine of Ayelala priest by her parents for spiritual cleansing because they suspected her to posses witchcraft spirit.

"When the deceased got to the shrine, the priest shaved her head and gave her a liquid substance to drink in order to deliver her from the alleged witchcraft. The deceased slumped and died immediately after taken the liquid substance.

"On the strength of the report, the DPO Ago-Iwoye division, CSP Adeola Adedoyin, led detectives to the shrine situated at Ojuolota area of Ijesha road in Ago-Iwoye, where the priest was arrested along with father of the deceased, Temitayo Ogunkoya.

"The Commissioner of Police, CP Ahmed Iliyasu, has ordered the immediate transfer of the suspects to homicide section of the State Criminal Investigation, and Intelligence Department for proper investigation. The CP also warned members of the public to desist from primitive and barbaric ways of dealing with matters, especially issues that has to do with human life as the command will not tolerate such archaic lifestyle, capable of terminating innocent people’s life unnecessarily."

Here’s How You Know Your Partner Loves You, Based On Their Birth Order

First Born

Oldest children are the caretakers of the bunch. They’re very comfortable being the ‘mom’ or the ‘dad’ of their group of friends, and that almost always transfers over towards their partner or their special someone.

When you’re with an oldest child, you’re with someone who is always trying to take care of you. They’ll be the boyfriend or the girlfriend who is never worried about catching the cold you have, they’ll just show up with soup and kombucha in hand more than ready to hole up on the couch with you until you feel better. They’re the ones who send ‘good morning’ and ‘sweet dreams’ texts, and who never fail to make sure you KNOW just how much they care. Sometimes their love can feel a little smothering and they can feel like a helicopter partner, but know that it comes from a good place. They just want to make you happy.

Somewhere In The Middle

Middle children grew up with a caretaker, and a show off on either side of them. Because of this they’ve been forced to carve out their own identity and cultivate a personality that’s unique to them in order to get attention. What this means when they’re in love? They’ll stop at nothing to make sure your eyes are always on them.

A middle child will be the partner who’s constantly looking for praise. Don’t think of them as needy or like they’re fishing for compliments, because it’s not about that. It’s because the feeling of you being proud to be with them and wanting to show them off is their favorite feeling in the world. You’ll know a middle child really loves you because they care what you think and they value your opinion above everyone else’s.

Youngest

Youngest children are the life of the party. They’re often very boisterous and have a certain ‘Look at me! Look at me!’ quality about them. When you date a youngest child you’re dating someone who you’ll constantly need to keep up with, or else be left behind.

Which is why when a youngest child loves someone, like truly truly loves them, they’re willing to hit their internal pause button. They will stop and asses the other person’s needs and think about how to include them, rather than just yank them along for the ride. You’ll know that your youngest child partner is really invested in you when they’re looking for ways to make the adventure about the two of you, instead of it simply being their one man show with you as an audience member.

Twin

Twins come with built in best friends, and that can be challenging when dating someone. It becomes really easy for the partner of a twin to feel ‘less than’ or like they’re constantly in someone else’s shadow. It’s understandable when you think about it; but just understanding something doesn’t make it easier to deal with.

When a twin has really fallen in love, it’s because their partner has become something their twin never was and can never be. The relationships are different (one doesn’t replace the other) but you’ll feel an almost overwhelming sense that you complete them in a way. You’ll know a twin is in love when they start coming to you for advice, really consider you a partner , and are trying their hardest to incorporate you into almost every aspect of their life. When you can sense that a twin feels at home with you, that’s when you know they are in it to win it.

Only Child

Only children are very all or nothing people. They’re either head over heels in love, or kind of ambivalent to be honest.

Which is why when an only child falls for someone, it’s a big deal. They don’t take these emotions lightly because they don’t happen very often. Your only child partner will probably be hesitant at first, and will never cease to comment on how they’re ‘never like this.’ It’s absolutely meant as a compliment. You will know that an only child is in love and invested when they open up to you and start being comfortable with their own vulnerability. They’ll tell you about their family (who they’re wildly protective of) and their hopes and dreams without fear of judgement. When an only child trusts you, that’s when they love you.

I’m Not Picky, I Just Know What I Deserve

When I fall in love, I completely shut down my mind and let my heart do all the thinking. I stop being logical. I ignore what the world has to say. When I fall in love, I’m not scared to go all in and give everything that I have.

But the true reason why I’m not in a relationship is because I feel like I haven’t found the right one yet. I haven’t met that one person who fits perfectly into my standards. I haven’t seen the qualities I’m looking for to anyone who shows interest in me.

I’m not in a rush to search for a lover. I’d rather be on my own than be with someone I have no special feelings with. I am not the kind of person who goes into a relationship for the sake of telling everyone that I’m in a relationship.

To me, love is more of an emotional connection rather than a badge of honor you pin proudly to your shirt.

I might appear as someone who’s pretty much selective in picking a person I want to settle down with, but that’s because I know exactly what I deserve.

I know what I want and what I need in a relationship. I have benchmarks and checklists I need to follow before I can commit with somebody.

If I’m going to be love sick for someone, then I have to be one hundred percent sure that they’re worth losing my sanity for. I have to be certain that it’s going to be a long-term partnership and not just another fleeting relationship.

I need someone who’s determined to stick with me until the end.

It’s true that I’m young and I should put myself out there and have fun and not worry about finding the right one at this point. But that’s just not me. I have no interest in wasting my time and playing games with anyone. I don’t like to be involving myself with someone who’s unworthy of my love and affection.

I know what I deserve because I care about myself and I respect myself. I don’t need to put myself in a relationship to know whether or not it’s going to work. I can already tell if something is wrong without necessarily having to experience it. It’s my responsibility to protect myself and provide myself all the good things in the world.

It’s never a selfish deed to declare your love for yourself once in a while.

Because the only person who can ultimately heal your broken heart is you. The only person you can rely on in the middle of the night is you. The only person who can save you at the end of the day is you.

It’s okay to consider yourself first, and put yourself first, before others. I don’t think it’s wrong to go after what I think is right for me. There is no reason to feel sorry for my standards.

I am alone because it’s my choice. I choose to wait. I choose not to settle for someone who I honestly know is not good for me. I choose to be on my own.

And I am genuinely happy to stay this way until I find the perfect one for me.

Whenever You Decide To Leave Me, Do It With Noise

Whenever you decide to leave me, do it with noise. Don’t silently disappear in the dark, allowing my heart to get confused, to get anxious, trying to grasp you and hold on to you while you are slowly slipping away. Don’t let my mind make up a story for myself to comfort me. To tell me that you just need your time and that you will come back to me. So soon. Because my heart knows better.

Whenever you decide to leave me, do it with noise. Tell me you don’t want me anymore. Tell me you met someone else. Tell me I’m just not the one, although you once thought I was. Say it, louder, louder. Let my heart hear it, feel it. Give it what it needs. Whatever promise it may break. Please, don’t leave in silence.

Whenever you decide to leave me, do it with noise. I hear you think: ‘But won’t that be too hard?’ Of course it will be hard. My heart will be broken. I will feel worthless. I will feel anger, I will feel like no happiness will ever enter my life again. But you know what’s even harder? Losing faith in love. Letting my heart forever be confused, thinking ‘What good is love when it just disappears? Did it ever exist? Will it?’.

So, whenever you decide to leave me, will you do it with noise? Show me that the love we had was real. Real enough to put it to an end. Give our ending the same commitment and fire as our start. I know you remember. By leaving me with noise, you’ll let my heart know that love didn’t say ‘I was never there’, but just said ‘See you later’ and my heart will recognize and embrace it with open arms whenever it comes on my path again.

I'm Officially Breaking Up With Writing And Falling In Love With Love

Normally, I’d know exactly how to start this. Usually, my topics come to me randomly. Lately, my mind has just been blank.

Writer’s block is known as being simply an excuse; a made up phenomenon that was created to justify laziness and an inability to focus. As a journalist, there have been plenty of times where I’ve found myself struggling to muster up the energy to put together a story. I’m a self-proclaimed procrastinator who typically doesn’t start pieces until a few hours before deadline. That’s the only way I’m able to write. The pressure pushes me.

Now that I’m nearing the end of my academic career I’m starting to panic. I’m realizing that in less than a year, the pressure of meeting a deadline in order to get a good grade will no longer exist. I will no longer have assignments listed clearly for me on a syllabus. I won’t have other classmates working on the same story as I am to vent to when it’s the day before deadline and I have no idea what I’m going to write.

It’s terrifying. I’ve recently started an internship at an amazing huge publication in New York City and while I should be excited about beginning my professional career, I actually find myself very discouraged.

Sometimes I think that I made a mistake going in to journalism. It takes a certain type of person to be a journalist. It’s more than being able to write well. It takes certain skills. Passion. Inspiration. A desire to write. I have none of these things anymore. I hate to think that I waited until I spent over $100,000 on both a bachelor’s and master’s degree in journalism to figure out that I don’t want a career in that field.

I think a lot of this has stemmed from me “stepping into the real world,” as some people say you do after graduating college. Although I went straight to grad school, I took on a tremendous amount of responsibility in an extremely short amount of time. I got into a serious relationship, moved in with my boyfriend and got a puppy—an English bulldog that I named Buddha.

It’s a strange thing. I’m the happiest I’ve ever been in my personal life but I’m the most confused I’ve ever been in my professional life. I’ve always referred to journalism as my first love. Since I was a little girl, writing has always brought me the most peace. It’s been my shoulder to cry on. The one thing that set my soul on fire…but now that’s all gone.

I have a theory that the reason I don’t love to write as much as I once did is because I found someone to take its place.

That sounds ridiculous. I know it does. But I really feel like it’s true. Everyone I’ve ever dated in the past has never had any effect on my writing. In fact, they’ve always given me more to write about.

But this one’s different. He’s special to me.

I never write about my current boyfriend. It has always baffled me and I’ve never been able to figure out why I don’t desperately feel the need to write about him like I have with every single person before him.

But I understand now.

I think that it’s because for once in my life, our reality together is something way better than anything I could ever fantastically write.

I feel terrible. I hate feeling this way. I’m conflicted. I feel like an imposter. I’m not truly a journalist. I never was. I’m a fraud.

I no longer think my purpose in this world is to write. I think it’s to love. To be happy and start a family one day. To encourage the people surrounding me to follow their dreams and believe in themselves. That is my dream. That is my purpose. To push those who have a genuine passion for something, whatever it may be.

It’s not you, it’s me, journalism. I’m not right for you. I can’t commit my life to you. Not anymore. Some things aren’t meant to be. Sometimes people outgrow each other and that’s okay. I really hope we can still be friends. And so this is goodbye for now, my old sweet dear friend. I don’t know where life will take me, I mean I’m only 22, but I do know that you’ll always be there should I ever need you again.

To quote one of my biggest inspirations, (who quoted Neil Young), “I don’t have the passion anymore, and so remember, it’s better to burn out than to fade away.”

Things You Should Do Before You Get Married

1. Ask yourself why. Why this person, why right now? Don’t get married because there’s a child on the way or because it makes sense financially or because all of your friends are wifed up and you’re the last man standing — it sounds stupid and obvious, but people hastily marry for the wrong reasons ALL. THE. TIME. And even though divorce appears to be really commonplace, it’s not a walk in the park and it’s definitely not free.

2. Love your body. While it’s true that the media would often convince us that we’ll only feel beautiful in the arms of someone who loves and approves of us physically, when we’re alone in front of an unforgiving mirror, the only thoughts we’re left with are our own. Going into any relationship feeling ugly, unlovable, and as though you should be ashamed of the way you look is a recipe for disaster. If you think you’re not worthy or capable of being touched and admired, even if someone disagrees with you, it’s going to be difficult to feel their love through all the layers of self-loathing. Though no one wakes up one day and goes, “Oh hell yeah I don’t know what I was thinking, I’m f-cking gorgeous,” it wouldn’t hurt to work on becoming happy with your body and finding some balance every day.

3. Accomplish something just for you. It could be graduating from school, starting a challenging job, or just facing a fear you need to prove you can overcome. Frankly, the obstacles and goal posts we have scattered throughout our lives come in all shapes and sizes, and only you should be concerned with the parameters you set for success and accomplishment. But if we don’t do things to make ourselves happy and feel as though we accomplished something, we can easily become complacent, or feel that we shouldn’t even try, because we’ll never reach our goals. The longer we go without achieving something because we want to, the harder it will become to start up that hill.

4. Tell everyone you will never get married. There’s nothing like meeting the right person who will transform you from a commitment-phobe into someone who is willing to tether themselves to someone else for an eternity. (Or until you get divorced, whichever comes first.)

5. Talk about the boring details. Debt. Health. Whether or not the two of you have the same ideas about where to live or if kids are on the table. You don’t want to enter into a legal contract with someone without knowing all of the facts.

6. Live with someone you’re in a relationship with. If it’s the one you eventually marry, fine. The point is that living together changes things.

7. Learn from the time you dated someone and treated them like crap. Everyone has that one relationship where they’re not particularly proud of the way they behaved. They took someone for granted, they picked fights, and acted generally like a jerk. While such behavior is certainly not commendable, you learn a lot about yourself through treating someone badly. Mainly, you realize who you don’t want to be and what kind of relationship you don’t want to have, which makes you more prepared for something like marriage. You can’t ever go back to the way you acted because it made you hate yourself. Your future husband/wife will feel relieved that you got this relationship out of your system.

8. Have a one night stand. Sleep with a stranger just to see if you can do it, just to see if you can feel okay afterwards. After you’re married, you won’t get to do anything, besides the one penis/vagina you’ve committed yourself to, so you might as well sow some wild oats beforehand.

9. Meet the people who raised your potential future husband/ wife. Whether you like their family or not, you’ll be able to pick up on red flags that wouldn’t have come to light otherwise. The issues someone has with their family may not make or break a relationship, but you don’t really know someone until you watch them lose it and go apeshit on their parents at Thanksgiving dinner.

10. Live with a member of your preferred gender identity who you’re not dating. This is the best way to adjust your expectations of who is responsible for what in a household.

11. Get your heart broken. Whether from losing a good friend, having a fight you know you were wrong in, or seeing a love you were sure was forever end prematurely — we all need to know what it feels like to be broken. Perhaps the most essential thing about heartbreak is coming out on the other side and realizing that, no matter how badly you are hurting in the moment, it’s going to pass and you are going to be happy again. Few things manage to put future fights, anger, and sadness into perspective than getting over a real heartbreak at least once.

12. Finish college. Because you’re way too young to be married that early.

13. Learn how to cook, regardless of gender. One of the best parts of stability is the fact that you DON’T have to go out as much anymore. One of the best things you can do to prepare for a simpler lifestyle is to figure out how live more simply.

14. Have an adventure with your friends. One thing that’s noticeable about wonderful romantic relationships is that they can often obscure — and even make us forget — the wonderful relationships we have with our friends. Though these friendships should by no means diminish when we’re married, it’s important to take time to appreciate the love you have with your friends, while it’s front-and-center in your life. Life can take us in many directions — and so can marriage and children — so all the more reason to have the adventures with friends you’ll remember all your life. Go on a road trip, take a vacation, get into way too much trouble in your hometown. Do stuff that reminds you that you’re young, and free, and can afford to make a few mistakes.

15. Live alone/ be alone. People can go their entire lives skipping from relationship to relationship because they’re afraid of being alone. Being alone isn’t always a walk on the beach, but it’s important to develop the capacity to rely on yourself for happiness before you pass off so much of that weight to another human being.

16. Fall in love with a friend. What is this strange idea that only the people you have sex with/ marry are the people you are supposed to fall head-over-heels in love with? What a sad life we would all be living if we were incapable of loving someone just for long car rides, laughing at stupid TV shows, and staying up late eating junk food and drinking straight from the bottle. Take the time to experience love in all the forms that you routinely mistake for being “boring old friendship.”

17. Be good to your parents. Few things in life will be more exciting for your parents than seeing you find someone and get married, likely starting a family of your own, and certainly bringing a new family into theirs. Why would we ever want to taint that with a relationship that’s strained, disrespectful, and full of alternating miscommunication and silence? Our parents deserve to be loved, to be enjoyed for the people they are (not just some abstract idea of being punished for things), and most of all, included in our lives. The beauty of bringing two families together is very much in the love for your own being grown and shared into the love of the whole new family unit. Shouldn’t we be sharing as much of that as possible?

18. Move out of your parents’ house. Learn how to pay bills, manage your money, and live responsibly. The least you can do before moving in with someone FOR ETERNITY is get some exposure about what it’s actually like to take care of yourself.

19. Figure yourself out. Too often people rush into committed monogamy for all the wrong reasons. “Figuring yourself out” is cliche, but that doesn’t mean you can’t work on yourself and prune your crutches, delusions, and self-destructive tendencies. It’s a life-long process, but at least, before you marry, try and have a firm grip on who you are and what you’re doing and why you’re doing it, rather than rushing headlong and blind into an unknown situation.